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  • Writer's picturePieter Niemann

Into the unknown of change

Updated: Aug 11, 2020

"The only constant is change", but change is sometimes the most scary experience #ConstantChange; #LifeChange

Just the mere idea of starting something new is very daunting. As I’m writing this, I can see why people would live a life only doing a relatively similar thing. I can understand how people go into a depression when they are faced with the loss of a job. My whole being is screaming to me to stick to what I know, and not to venture out, and it is all thanks to… well, my network of people that is important to me.

 
"When life comes running, meet it with love!"
 

If you think about some learning theories, they would theorise that you would respond to your environment by learning ways to navigate the challenges that are presented to you. What I think this would then mean is that I fear changing as my parents taught me how to fear change, but teaching me how to fear unemployment and career risk taking. I was instructed to get a job one day, work hard at it, and never lose it or you are never going to be able to survive. This will make one feel that loosing a job can mean that you were not good enough to keep it, or that life as we know it is going to be destroyed!


Through this I have learned that true happiness will come from having a job and sticking to it… As I’m sitting here, I’m chuckling, as that is not what is making me happy. I am sometimes actually very stressed and not happy at work at a big company, and rarely do I feel satisfied, so where am I going wrong according to this? I know from modelling theory, that this way of thinking was what my parents was told, and what I was told. Luckily it doesn’t need to be true any longer.


So how am I going to get over myself by getting over my anxiety of starting something new, or a new journey? I think the best place to start is at the beginning. This would mean to CALM DOWN! I think when you get anxious, the best thing to do is to just breath. Just breathe in and out, remind yourself that you are alive and that stress is something that is going to happen.


Remember that this is going to be a challenge, as anything new is, and remind yourself that struggling to learn a skill is also okay. When it is overwhelming, reach out to someone. Talk to people about it. Get the support you need. Life does not happen in isolation, and as the famous saying goes, "no man is an island" so don't insist on having to do everything on your own!


Make sure that you read up on the thing you want to change as knowledge is power and power creates potential. So get your head in the game too. Make sure you know what the thing is that you want, and if that is what you want. This will create your passion and drive as you will have a clear goal to work towards.


Be prepared to be successful but to also fail at stuff, but always keep learning as it is part of any journey. Don’t ever give up on yourself and never give yourself a hard time, but stay honest.


Keep at it, and review your journey often. The same principle when crossing a street, always look both ways (backwards and forwards). You need to know where you are coming from, accept and celebrate the victories and learn from the difficulties. Honestly reflect on both. Just remember that as soon as you see it as a failure, you have lost. Rather remember the positive side!

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